Sanctuary Room

People are constantly inspired by your busy life, but behind the scenes you're burning out and don't really have time for yourself and your relationships.

You work hard and have achieved so much. Yet, you can't recall the last time you truly felt proud of yourself.

You're scared to offend people at work or in your relationships. So you always behave as a nice, obedient, friendly Asian girl. Even though underneath you're actually a little feisty.

You're exhausted from chasing a never-ending to do list, functioning on autopilot, while trying to meet everyone's obligations except for your own.

You have a hard time letting your work be seen by more people because you're scared of saying the wrong things and you're spending way too much time perfecting all your art/ content before hitting publish.

When your partner asks: "are you sure about that?" you immediately go into a spiral second guessing yourself because deep down you don't really trust yourself.

You recognize patterns of oppression that live within you and want to actively reclaim your voice, personal agency, and take a stronger stance on issues that matter.

In 2019, after a few years of working in my first marketing job after graduation, I experienced a huge burnout, heartbreak, and depression episode.

That was a huge wake up call leading me to question everything—how I saw myself, what success really meant, and eventually prompting me to start my own life coaching practice and podcast.

Last year in 2025, I made another pivot—moving to Taiwan to reconnect with my roots and build a life grounded in both eastern and western philosophies.

6+ years and thousands of coaching hours later, I now guide creative Asian women to unshame themselves, reconnect with their inner power, and take up space with courage in their lives and creative work.

My work blends emotional depth, nervous system work, and practical self-leadership—so you don’t just understand yourself, you actually change how you live and express out loud in your everyday life.

" Thanks for the session yesterday! Wild to hear so many people having the same content creation problems "

" Shirley. Thank you so much for today’s session. It feels so expansive. "

"Thank you Shirley for the wonderful session. It is so surprising and kind of relieving to hear that other ppl share such similar struggles as you. Learned a lot."

"Hi Shirley!! Thank you so much for the sanctuary room and coaching today. I even made some friends too and added on Instagram!"

"I felt less alone after today. Thank you for inviting me."

" [after the session] I wrote a few things down around how to enjoy content creation: make something that aligns, make something I’m proud of, that express myself, ⁠that makes me laugh, that helps ppl, being weird little old me."

" [after the session] I have drafted up a follow up email for the recruiter [...] I feel so relieved now to have some answers. I enjoyed hearing you coach and guide everyone and their journeys!! "

" [after the session] I connected with a fellow applicant [...] thanks for all the encouragement!"